But what about the Soul?

     Once upon the time there were two lovers. These two lovers were very different from each other. One was a spiritual man and the other a woman without faith. The man saw his woman as a blessing; an opportunity to perhaps mentor his lady towards spirituality. He felt the desire to love and be loved spiritually, yearning from the outer edges of her soul. He also saw her pertinacity to love in areas outside of romance; so their union made sense to him. Keeping in mind that they found each other at an early period of his faith. He was very naive in his wisdom of spirit and flesh. His lady, not sensitive to the frequency of spirit, did not mind her partner's spirituality at all. She wished that she could be in tune with the higher power, but she was unable to be... and consequently did not believe in its existence... She, like her man, also saw this union as an opportunity. An opportunity for love to overpower their spirit and make it a slave to its will. An opportunity to be ministered in a faith she felt was forced on her as a youth, long before the union was made. An opportunity to love in a way that would break the curse of loveless partnerships in older generations of her family. 

Underestimating the relentless nature of evil and the heat of fire during a soul's baptism; both realized after the fact that love doesn't over power anyone who is unwilling to let love into their hearts. 

Starting on a foundation of fantasy and not friendship, their union aged in a manner that made time longer than it was. Their love had the wear and tear of two battling soldiers, not lovers from two different worlds. Naive lovers make naive mistakes... Their circle of friends also handled their love in a manner that was not productive to the union between the two. Their circle of friends handled the couple individually, not as one entity. They would tell the spiritual member that he needed to be stronger... they would tell the spiritual member that he needed to deal with it... they would tell the spiritual member that he would needed to adjust his approach... Perhaps they felt that way because he had faith to fall back on. Or perhaps they felt that it would be very unlikely for his lady to evolve into a spiritual form of compromise that she was not accustom to. Regardless of motive, the spiritual member felt as if he was asked to be infallible; perfect in every way to make the relationship work. 
Ironically, many of the same people would tell the other member of this union differently. They suggested to her that her and her man may have out grown each other... They spoke to her about exit strategy and independence... 

Very wise words on both accounts...

But what about the Soul?

Man and woman in a union such as theirs are of one body. 2 halves of a whole heart, 2 sides of the same flesh, Yin and Yang, Earth and Moon. 2 different forms of advice going to in essence one entity only lengthened the crack in their armor. It caused anger and confusion. Ultimately, as human beings we may all be guilty of loving 2 people in a single bond in different ways. So this author will not judge or throw stones at anyone who does...


      But what about the Soul?

A friend with the proper wisdom would attempt to get to the root of the problem. I say attempt since many couples themselves don't know. However, if there was the discovery that this union was experiencing a failure to connect on an intimate level, the approach and advice may have been different. Perhaps the spiritual male could mentor differently. Perhaps his lady could be more willing to allow love into her heart. Perhaps they both could be more patient and transparent with each other...

Failure to connect on an intimate level suggests there's a great fear hiding in the shadows, perhaps behind perceived success or a genuine looking smile... 

Regardless...

No one should ever be told "deal with it, or haul ass" before a search of the soul is pursued. Someone may leave but have the same intimacy problems they were told to run from before. Someone may never learn the taste of sweat that the deepest and strongest relationships are familiar with. 

It is my belief that our souls have a temporary residence in the crude and fragile flesh we occupy.

Man's job on Earth is not to save souls... However we shouldn't undermine them either... Love is always an option. 

If the soul itself is crying out, if hearts are aching, if spirits cannot rest peacefully...

Why not speak to the soul first since that's where the pain is?

Bleu...